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Is It Time To Start Over?
 
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In these sticky moments that you feel like you are having to drag your feet through the mud to get to the next page - they probably mean it’s time for something new.’

Starting over… 

A topic that has been on my mind so deeply over these past couple of days. 

Do you ever take a moment to stop and think to yourself - if there was only one thing I could do for the rest of my life what would it be?
* If you didn’t know, that question is what brought you Simple + Suite.



Now, take a moment now to answer this question for yourself.

Take this moment to reflect on where your heart is at right now.



Often more times than less as humans we feel stuck in where we are, we feel as if we are trapped and cannot shut the current book we are in the middle of writing for ourselves — we feel as if we have to finish it… but the question is, do we really have to finish it? And if you said yes, what is your why? Is that why enough? Does it make you happy?



Have you ever been in the middle of reading a book and suddenly you are no longer relating to the words or felt as if you were having to drag your feet through the mud to get through it? Well I think this happens in life a lot too. In life sometimes I think we just have to shut the book and start on a new one. Why continue to write a book that no longer is fulfilling you? To stop, close the book, walk away, exc… is the furthest thing from giving up or not ‘completing’ something. Truth is you tried something and you’ve been giving it what you’ve got but some things are just not meant to be. In most cases shutting a book takes a lot of courage. Suddenly these what if’s start creeping in. These what if’s come alongside other feelings such as being scared.



* What is so scary about being scared?



I’m here to say, it’s okay to turn your back on what you’ve been doing if you no longer feel attached to it, if you no longer love it, or if your feelings have simply changed: you are human and you are allowed growth.

If you loved the same things you did five years ago, I’d actually be truly concerned. Hopefully what you love has grown in some way shape or form in those five years… and you have re fallen in love with it. If not, maybe consider starting over.



One thing I say often is - if I am where I am today in a year then I am absolutely doing something wrong. Where is the growth if no change is occurring in our lives?



When I decided to take my name off of my wedding photography brand and re-brand it as Baird & Lim with my associate earlier this year it was one of the hardest and yet easiest decisions that I have ever made. I knew it was time to close the book on Sawyer Baird Weddings… though it didn’t have to be shut and I could have easily kept writing pages I knew they wouldn’t have as much heart and soul as they use too. The pages would get pretty muddy if I continued down the road of weddings alone (finding my work wife was seriously the best thing, ever). For me it was the right time to close the book on Sawyer Baird Weddings and start over. Though my start over in that department isn’t extremely crazy it is still completely starting over. Talk about scary. 



Now for my heart, if I could do only one thing what would it be moment?

My heart and soul is deeply rooted in what’s happening here at Simple + Suite and yet I wanted to keep a platform to shoot weddings under if I wanted to. I love both, so I had to make some very scary decisions to do both. I followed my heart and when your hearts in it, then you’re doing something right.



In these sticky moments that you feel like you are having to drag your feet through the mud to get to the next page - they probably mean it’s time for something new . Does that mean closing a book and starting over? Maybe. Take a moment to think…



What is your heart calling out to you? 

Where do you see yourself?

How are you making an impact?

Do you want to be seen differently?

Are you inspired by your surroundings?

You know that thing that scares the shit out of you that keeps sneaking up in your thoughts?


Go for it. 
Close the book you’re in and dive head in first for where your heart is at (and obviously head, too).



So, if you could do one thing for the rest of your life what would it be? That thing - go for it. Start over. You have the opportunity to dive head first every single day. What are you waiting for?



Founder, Sawyer Baird


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Love you, Universe
 
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What was a newsletter in an email has quickly became a love letter for all of those who haven’t subscribed yet…

They say that life is defined by the choices that we make… but in reality what comes after we make decisions is a major way in how we define ourselves daily. We decide to react in a positive or negative manor. We decide to either be happy or sad. We see silver linings or we tear ourselves apart… and at the end of the day who is to say what is the “right way’. Are we really making a choice or taking a chance? You can only can control what you control. Choice or by chance do what you feel is right.



In these times of decision making from the most vulnerable places… the places of our stomaches are full of butterflies, our heart is beating out of our chest, palms are sweaty… in the can’t think moments in our life we have a choice to take chances on ourselves.



I’ve learned that people will never forget the way you make them feel. They might forget what you said to them or what you were wearing but never in the way that you made them feel. Though often feelings change and we are faced with a choice: do we hold on to the moments that made us feel? Do we take a chance on holding onto moments that made us feel happiness? We as humans have this beautiful choice daily. We can hold onto these beautiful moments that are so dear or we can tuck them away and allow a haze cover them. It’s our choice.



These choices are profound. They are the ones that simply define us.



Over the last couple of years I have made many choices and have taken many chances on myself for the first time. In life, love, relationships, friendships, and lastly myself. I completely broke all of my ‘rules’. For the first time in my life I have felt worthy past the surface level of worthy… I broke myself to break my walls down. I took a chance on myself to find myself without any distractions. I was looking for so much validation in others when I needed to just take a moment to learn to start to look for validation within myself. Trust me, I certainly lost my mind a few times and I most definitely went through by far the hardest chapter of my life ‘alone’. Then I learned that there’s these beautiful moments in life that only start to come when you start to truly see yourself for who you are deeply and in these moments others begin look at you and see you for who you are and what you define yourself as. They begin to love you for all that you have chosen to love yourself for. 



Today I look at the people I’ve let in and the truth is they’ve seen me, maybe not all of me on the scale of what defines me as a whole, but what they’ve seen is a true me. At my most vulnerable states in whatever realm they’ve came into my life with. There isn’t any second guessing myself or asking myself what if… it’s a beautiful thing when you know you put it out there. Even when it does hurt, tap yourself on the fucking back because its not an easy task friends, and for that you deserve an award or wine - same thing.



I’ve learned as humans we have this incredible choice to carry our hurt by having it define us or allowing it to teach us and mold us into better humans. It’s a proven study that it’s easier to be negative than it is positive (hints why we often don’t hear positive news stories). We have to train ourselves to think in a manor that is open minded. To think ‘what is this teaching me’ vs. ‘why is this happening to me’. I’m not going to lie, being a human with many feelings might be one of the hardest things I have had to maneuver over the years. Not until 2018 did I truly get to a point with myself to say, “Okay, that sucked, but what positive can I take away from this experience?”. To allow myself to not only grow but to be better tomorrow than I am today. 



Here I am, in my mid-twenties completely redefining myself due to choices that I have made and the chances that I took not only on myself but in others. So, take the chance on yourself, hell loose yourself a couple of times too, and re-find yourself in the process of making a choice to loving yourself daily. Give yourself the chance to see what the universe has in store, because dear friends it works in very beautiful ways when we just trust in it. 



What would your life look like if you never did anything that scared you? You know the things that make you have butterflies, sweaty palms… that can't-eat, can't-sleep, reach-for-the-stars, over- the-fence, World Series kind of stuff. The universe has given me so much more than I ever thought imaginable. Things that are far better than I could have dreamed up. It’s always better than you thought it’d be when you have the grace to trust in yourself while taking the chance on yourself. The saying we only have one life is a very true one, we do, so for that take the risk. It could teach you so much about yourself or it could be the best thing that ever happens to you but you’ll never know if you don’t take the chance.



Find beautiful new light in spaces of you that are yet to be discovered.



I think this calls for my current novel to be closed with such a beautiful ending - because I’ve learned to risk it all for the things I care about deeply, for the things that allow me to feel alive, for the things that move me to my core. I am forever grateful.



As I pack my final things to move miles away for home, taking the biggest risk yet… I just wanted to share, that thing you’ve been thinking of saying - say it, that thing you’ve thought about doing - do it, that thing you’ve been getting butterflies in your stomach over - act on it.



Love you universe.


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Founder, Sawyer Baird

 
Simple + Suite, An Intro
 
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What is Simple + Suite? I thought it was time for a formal introduction.


Hi - I’m Sawyer, founder of Simple + Suite.
I’m here to chat with you, keep you updated with current happenings, and connect you with badass women making strides all over the world while giving back into the community.

Okay - let’s get down to business, the core values here at Simple + Suite are as follows:
With Simple + Suite I am reshaping how we approach supporting women. We talk about supporting women all the time - by buying from women ran business, designers, exc. What we don’t talk about is the women in need that we aren’t necessarily supporting when we are supporting these women ran businesses. While I am 110% for supporting women ran businesses I also believe that we can bridge this divide found within our own community. We are here to make a brighter future for the generations of women to come. We have to re-evaluate the way we approach supporting women by also helping women in need. It’s time to change this - it’s time to bridge the divide. Here at Simple + Suite we share stories about women… we share their lives, products, and support each other while helping each other, too. We also like to keep you updated with current happenings in culture - because ladies, it doesn't hurt to be informed.

If you haven’t read about how the idea of Simple + Suite evolved over the years - it’s simple, really... It was the very beginning of 2017 and I was stuck in a blizzard coming home from a holiday trip. I was stuck in Manhattan (this is when I lived in Atlanta) with no flights going in or out… I decided to go grab drinks with some friends that evening off Bowery in the East Village. Why not? So I went out and bought snow boots (best decision - to this day) and some coffee (snowy days are beautiful but dreary) and did a mini freshen up and headed out. What I didn't realize that this night was going to impact me in the way it did. What was a night of a couple cocktails with friends quickly turned into a night where a lovely stranger came up to me at the bar and simply asked, “if you could do only one thing for the rest of your life what would it be?” - friends, to this day I do not know this man’s name - and I responded with “love people”. He looked at me in complete shock, saying he had never heard that response before and walked away, turning around and looking at me twice as he went to sit back down with his friends. I was a little in shock at my own answer, if we are being honest here. It was the first thing that popped into my mind and it changed me quicker than one would expect. I left that little bar in the East Village a changed woman. I hopped into my Lyft and headed back to my hotel at the time, The Marlton, a boutique hotel in the Greenwich Village - if you’ve never been here, do, it’s filled with writers and creatives in the lobby everyday - I went to sleep with a heavy heart with many ideas in my head. The next morning I headed downstairs to drink my morning cappuccino and write down the many many dreams that I had dreamed up the night before… the next hours were the hours that I fell in love with New York. I was sitting there with a pen and paper and all the dreams rushing through my head while surrounded by so many others that I can only imagine had incredible dreams in their heads. It was one of the most beautiful sights that I’ve ever seen. People so in invested in their craft yet in a room full of so many others… but you could tell in the moment… their moments, like mine, time was standing still. We were all so caught up in our dreams and there was nothing to hold us back. It might have taken me two years to clearly see my vision, my wants, and my goals for Simple + Suite, but friends… we are here - we made it.

This year, 2019, I am following more than one goal. Not only am I here launching Simple + Suite but I can now call New York home. I’ve known I loved it from the moment I laid my eyes on it (like most things, I just know) but it wasn't until those moments in the village that crisp winter morning where I found my own dreams and where just for a moment time stood still that I fell in love.

I can’t wait to see what the future holds Simple + Suite, you, women, and lastly myself.

xoxo

Sawyer Baird

 
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